Not mentiras yourself about your relationship. Self-deception is a mechanism that natural and normal when a situation is very serious or painful. Deception and lies towards ourselves, has to do with the mechanism of denial. It is a process that helps us to not confront painful feelings of suffering of issues having to do with conflicts and problems either with your partner or with ourselves. The lie as many say, seems to be a deliberate act.
However, as a psychological mechanism is functional to some extent. In traumatic situations to take distance and then confront the crisis. But when it is presented as a way to be recurrent and we do not take actions to resolve certain situations that we live, it becomes a problem, and that leads us to live out the reality. Better we don’t talk about what us mistreats or bother us, that way, we live in the fantasy that the problem does not exist. Better to not speak on the subject of abuse and abuse, in this way, we don’t have that run the risk of facing.
Stay in a couple who us weakens, and pretend it’s okay, is live in self-delusion and the staff lie. Live in a disrespectful relation and justify acts of my partner, is living in the fallacy, denial and appearance. But against who we want to pretend, yes our innermost experience tells us that we are hurt and in total suffering. We pretend a happy life, we accept for our children, deceive us and justify a stay in a couple, because it gives us terror face our true situation of sadness, of disrespect, of disregard of falsity. We are more faithful to the appearance that to ourselves. How much damage we do, just to live in emptiness and meaninglessness of an intimate relationship. We disfrazamos our acts and simulate that we are very well but basically we are torn and full of rage, anger and pain. The dissimulation helps us to be in couples, as its name implies, living a role we are left, that is not going, but in addition, we are only fraudulent against ourselves. Deception, lying, appearance have to do with falsehood. We can not respect ourselves, we can not want us, not we can simulate more, we cannot fool us more. Depends on us live a life as a couple falsified or begin a rebuilding process and personal growth it is worthwhile to reflect at this point of the couple in our newsletter you can download complete, the book: the ten commandments of the life partner. Thanks for reading, my mission and intent is the quality of emotional life if any of the topics find you interesting it would be good for me to write and if not, also. We also have electronic material where here more about this topic and how to overcome it. How to recover trust in love: wounds and scars on the couple relationship.